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  • Saturday, July 04, 2009

    去年此時,我是廚工;今年今天,依舊軍中

    當你遇上困難,是否會覺得忍一下,過去就好了...
    當兵時,的確如此,痛苦的時候就拿起日曆,數數還剩幾天...

    回到社會後呢?
    用78歲減現在年齡,看人生還剩幾年痛苦結束嗎?
    我知道不是,只是有時不爽的時候還真的會給它算下去...靠!

    As I getting old, life gets more and more complicated.
    Having children or getting married seems not my own choice to my own life.
    How could marriage mean the same to us since we are diverse individuals and raised in different times?
    Can carrying on the family line be the major factor of marriage?
    I don't think so.
    Can marriage guarantee the lifelong happiness of your child?
    I don't think so.
    I would never get married just for family line or skin-deep love to someone.

    Anny has been suffering this disaster and I know it has ruined the atmosphere at home.
    Negotiation is always out of the question because of Father's bad temper.
    Some simple problems were stopped on the way to solutions.
    A few days later, the chaos seemed to be eased while the problems went potential.
    Little by little, the trifles were accumulated to an amount that tore your sense down.

    And that's what happened to me now.
    I'm really tired of your temper and stubbornness.
    It's painful to stay in the army as well as at home.
    One year has past and I am back to the start.

    2 comments:

    egg said...

    真是家家有本難念的經啊!
    有些事情確實是一再地溝通討論也不會有個結果~
    只能擱置一段時間再拿出來~
    然後再擱置再討論,老是沒止境~
    唉!加油啦!長大後本來就容易被很多啊哩不達的事搞得很無奈~
    至少跟當兵比起來,心煩時還可以跑出去做點甚麼開心的事挽救心情~~~不過為啥要用78歲去減呢?是算命的說你會回到78歲的意思嗎?

    我不是義大利麵(不用回了,謝謝) said...

    Welcome to the true world...活著本來就是這樣,會遇到很多煩死人的事情,不過再怎麼煩也不會真的死就是了。除非煩到得了憂鬱症忍不住去自殺那例外~

    只要是跟人有關係,就會有麻煩。愈親的人,麻煩愈多。活著的時候,確實會感受到很多這樣負面的情緒。可是死了之後呢,還是一樣會有很多麻煩,很多做不完的事、解決不了的困擾……而且一件都少不了。

    只是負責解決與面對問題的人,會變成被留下來的那些人。如果你愛他們的話,就不要想什麼算算看還得撐幾年吧……這樣也未免太感傷了。

    別煩啦~!如果不是忍耐可以解決的,那能怎麼辦?也只好等到結論自己跑出來啦!從內文看來,最痛苦的人應該是那個夾心餅乾女主角,你目前的重點工作不是跟著她一起煩惱,而是陪伴她度過這個尷尬期,幫忙潤滑在溝通上比較尖銳的部分。

    是說,如果長輩們不是很擅長營造OPEN氣氛那一型的,家人之間的溝通,確實成了門大學問……如果遇上了,大概也沒幾個人知道解決之道吧!

    不過,當我爸快死的時候,老實講之前我們家裡吵翻天的那些~有的沒的說不清理還亂什麼鬼的雜七雜八,那時大家都不計較了,也才開始體悟到,這種柴米油鹽醬醋茶人生階段啥咪碗糕的吵吵鬧鬧、煩悶憂慮,有時是很幸福的。

    家人之間如果彼此相愛,許多的爭吵或許都是出於為對方著想吧!只是展現出來的方式不是那麼適當。雖然很難,但是時時記著這一點,家人的壞脾氣就會變得比較可以忍耐。我媽脾氣也很壞,她蠻不講理的時候,我都是試著這麼想的。

    雖然不能提出什麼建設性的作法,不過有一點要做提醒。到了更年期、內分泌失調,情緒掌控會變得很困難,只是不全然是這樣的原因。當長輩的脾氣變得比以前更差,有時是一種「身體的警訊」,請多多留意。

    啊~好像也沒安慰到什麼,可能看完這「樂樂等」的文字又更煩了,呵!反正我今天也很煩,或者說其實每天都很煩,就~寫給別人看也寫給自己看!總之就是想開點吧!要等兩人都「想婚」,這事急不得的。Life's a struggle...'cause you alive and you feel.